A very special lady

Some of you know that a lady entered LK’s life on June 15, 2013, at a dinner party at Tujunga House. I had invited two couples, one good friends while the other was acquaintances. One of the ladies, knowing that it would be a party for five, wanted to bring a coworker. I passed, she insisted, and eventually I gave in. She then asked the lady, who also said “no.” The acquaintance again insisted, and finally the lady agreed. For this I’ll forever be thankful, for without this person’s insistence that we meet we would never have and our future, which is wonderful, would have never become reality.

Pailin in the backyard of Tujunga House on 15jun2013. (photo © Pailin Subanna-Kraft & Louis Kraft 2013)

This wasn’t a flirtation, nor was it a relationship doomed to end no matter how good it looked at the beginning. This lady was special and different. Pailin Subanna is her name. My initial thoughts of her? I saw a cross between the 16th century English pirate Francis Drake and the 19th century American frontiersman Kit Carson. Huh? … Never mind; its complicated.

A flash in time and two lives changed.

But there’s more, much more to this lady. She’s fragile and yet smart, she’s sexy and yet kind and giving, she’s not afraid to walk into the unknown, and she has accepted me for who I am and not for who she wants me to become. I have lived a long and at times volatile life, and I had never met another person like her before.

She understands that sometimes I need to be working at four in the morning and that sometimes I may be working deep into the night, and worse that I may need to spend a good portion of her day off working. She is open to exploring my world. In the past I had had people close to me travel to my world but in reality they never entered it and had no idea what they had experienced or seen. Others damned my world and turned their back on everything in it (and in many cases before they had seen anything).

Not so with Pailin. Her bags are packed and she is ready to hit the road at the drop of a wide-brimmed hat.

Pailin in the front yard of Tujunga House on 17nov2013. (photo © Pailin Subanna-Kraft & Louis Kraft 2013)

She is a cowgirl from Thailand and someday she will become a swashbuckler from Thailand. Alas, this is taking a little longer than I expected as she had crouched back in fear the first time she had seen the flash and deadliness of a blade. She has been a hard sell on swinging a rapier. Working out with and knowing the sword is twofold: 1) Great exercise, and 2) Great defensive knowledge that could disable an evil person. We live in Los Angeles, a wonderful city that offers everything a person could want including everything for people from distant lands. Culture, the sea, mountains, wonderful weather, and that great mix of people that the USA has and supports (and something no other country offers)—freedom for all regardless of race or religion.*

* I hate to say this, but beginning during the 2016 presidential election the USA has taken a giant step backwards in regards to “freedom for all” regardless of race, color, religion, and nationality. 

Pailin makes me feel wanted, she makes me feel safe. This is something I’ve never experienced before. She is my lady, my life, my wife, and she will be with me until the end of time.

Oh, I forgot to mention; she’s a goofball just like me.
I can’t begin to tell you how much fun joking, playing with words,
and physically playing games (such as hide and seek with finger guns)
keep us laughing and enjoying each other’s company.